When are you going to settle down and get married? Is anyone else sick of hearing that question?
Actually, I am settled down. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years, we have a house together, a joint mortgage and even a cat. So why is it that people think that I can’t be happy until I am married?
I mean really, the idea that you have to get married to be settled and happy is seriously outdated.
My boyfriend and I knew our relationship was going to be for the long-term. We have discussed getting married, and we both know that’s what we want to happen one day. But we are not in any massive rush.
We bought out house together and have a joint mortgage, which in my eyes, is almost as big of a commitment as getting married is.
We work as a team, we help each other, we are there for each other in the good times and the not so good times. We take joint responsibility for everything from finances to general household chores – so what makes us different from a married couple?
I love my boyfriend, and I know that I want to spend the rest of my life with him. But at the moment, I don’t feel like I need to get married for us to confirm our love for each other.
Why should we get married just to conform to society’s view that I can’t possibly be happy – unless I have had a big white wedding, and get myself into a massive amount of debt just to show the world that I am now a Mrs!
I am part of a team with my boyfriend, but I also am an individual.
I have a great job, I earn my own money, and I actually do like being independent. So, it seems like I have the best of both worlds.
One day, I know that we will get married, but that doesn’t stop me being happy right now, just as I am, with my boyfriend and best-mate right by my side.
Marriage and children and something that we are expected to do and have at some point in our lives. But what do you actually want?