They say Christmas is the most wonderful time of the year and it is definitely a magical season. Everyone is happy and thoughtful and you spend a lot of time with family and friends.
Add a relationship into the equation and it’s even more amazing. Sharing the festive season with your loved one is incredible but there are some tricky decisions that come with it. Which family do you spend Christmas day with?
Both of you want to spend the day with your own respective families but you want to spend it together.
Both of your Mum’s will be heartbroken if you don’t spend the day with them but you can’t please both of them.
An easy solution would be to spend a romantic Christmas alone just the two of you but then you lose out on that family element. What on earth do you do?
This question does not have a simple answer. Sometimes it’s not even as simple as their’s or yours. With nuclear families on the decline, you may have many options like the movie Four Christmases.
Then you add the distance to the puzzle. You could easily solve the solution by spending half a day with one family and half a day with the other. But what if your families live nowhere near each other.
In short, there is no simple answer, everyone’s situation will be different and you have to take all of your personal factors into consideration.
A decision has to be made and as families are emotionally invested in bagging you for the holidays, some one is bound to be disappointed.
You shouldn’t commit to the first family that asks you, you need to have a serious discussion with your partner about your Christmas priorities and go from there.
This should be an agreement and discussion solely between the two of you with no outside influence.
You also don’t just need to discuss which family you’re going to, but also have the option of hosting and therefore spending time with both families.
If this fails then try asking your parents how they spent their first Christmases together.
This can offer advice as well as acting as a gentle reminder that your priority is to spend Christmas together and you can’t necessarily keep everyone else happy.
They need to understand this and be willing to be flexible. There will be disappointment on someone’s part but the respective party will get over it and you will spend the following Christmas with them.
Try not to stress about it though. Christmas is a happy time and if you try to do too much, you will lose the enjoyment of it.
Come to an agreement, stick to your decision and enjoy the day. Don’t let anyone pressure you or guilt you into doing something that is not right for the two of you as a couple.
You have options, you can split, you can alternate, you can host… you just need to decide which is right for you.