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Just because it’s Christmas, it doesn’t mean that I like you

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Christmas, a time of joy, generosity and pretending to like people who you hate every other moment of the year. And this year it is time to stop this nonsense once and for all.

Everyone knows what I’m talking about, that one family member you avoid all year round because, quite frankly, they’re not a nice person.

Or the friend you’ve been ghosting all year because they annoy you.

The colleague who just winds you up for no reason. And suddenly, you have to be all nice and sociable with them for one reason; because it’s Christmas.

Jesus was not born for you to put up with this. Santa does not come down your chimney so you can pretend to listen to a rubbish anecdote.

Christmas is quite often depicted as a time of communication and telling the truth. One of the greatest Christmas films of our time (in my opinion) Love Actually, is completely based around this idea. And it’s a really lovely idea.

However, it is so far from being real at this point. We all gather round and fake smile and pretend to be happy and fine. There is no real communication.

The irony is that even in the Biblical Christmas, communication is key to the whole event.

But nowadays real, genuine communication is no more. It’s all false pleasantries and avoiding discussion. It’s quite Sad Actually.

We’re filling the gaps in our lives with stuff, like Christmas, and skirting around problems, feeling too scared to be truthful. Because God forbid you ruin the big day by being ‘miserable’ or not joining in the fun.

It’s a very fake event and one I don’t have time for any more. For the last few years it has become more of a sour event for me, I don’t particularly enjoy it, and I’m sure thousands of other people feel exactly the same way.

I’ve realised over the years that it’s the falseness of the whole time of year that bothers me. We’re not that happy, we’re not that festive and we don’t like anyone we’re forced to be around. So why do we have to pretend to be?

Why don’t we just cut the rubbish this year and do what we want?

I challenge you to be completely truthful in your encounters this year. I’m not saying be mean or horrible. I’m just saying, if you don’t like someone, don’t feel you have to engage in conversation.

If you don’t want to join in playing games, don’t join in. If your strange uncle has a problematic opinion, try to discuss it out with them. Or leave the situation if you don’t to be there. Don’t let yourself be uncomfortable for the sake of a holiday anymore.

You have to stick to this challenge, because I know for sure that I won’t. So please, if you can’t do it for yourself, do it for me, Abi the biggest faker of them all.

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