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How to make safe sex sexy

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With all the advances in contraception you would think we would be fine with wrapping it up and being safe. From personal experiences it can be an awkward conversation to bring it up with someone. But it shouldn’t be and that’s what we need to sort.

In research conducted for their campaign to raise awareness about sexual health, Public Health England found that 47% of young people said that they’ve had sex with someone new, without using a condom.

It sounds awful to think you’re sleeping with someone who has an STI and if you end up getting one from this it’s a lot of hassle than having the conversation at the beginning.

So let’s talk about making the contraceptive talk sexy then.

The first thing to think about is when’s the best time to mention it. For me I would mention it as early as possible.

This might sound too early at this point, but think that when you’re going through the build up and getting to the stage of having sex.

That awkward couple of minutes where you talk about condoms, he finds a condom and awkwardly rushes to put it on is gone. It’s not a thought that then has to cross either of your minds.

Application can heat things up sometimes. Helping them put the condom on can make it more inviting.

Rather than sitting there waiting for them to put it on why not help them out so they don’t feel awkward trying to put it on.

If you’re on contraceptive pills or the implant yourself you should still be asking them to wear a condom. Unless you’re in a relationship or you trust the other person you should both still be protected.

Contraceptive pills and the implant stop you from getting pregnant they don’t help to avoid STI’s. So make sure this conversation happens at some point.

If you’re in a relationship or seeing this person often then make sure you both get tested. That is one of the best ways to keep thing sexy. It keeps you both safe and ensures that you both know exactly what is going on.

Having safe sex shouldn’t feel like a chore. Sex toys, lube and games can make the whole thing better to the point where that condom makes no different.

If it feels boring with a condom then spice it up a bit. Use some sex toys to get you both in the mood or introduce more foreplay so that the condom doesn’t become a barrier.

The main risk with not using contraception is STI’s. In the past week 50% of Oxford Students had unprotected sex. This leads to higher cases of STI’s.

How can we feel comfortable with the person we are sleeping with when there is nearly a 50% chance they have an STI.

If you do have or have had an STI you need to tell the person you’re sleeping with.

They need to know and you need to have the conversation. If you don’t seek medical help the problem can get worse and it’s not the best present to have is it really.

It takes a short amount of time to get protected and it takes even longer to get rid of an STI so get protected.

For more information about condoms and STI’s visit the campaign website.

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