Sex

Has porn changed our perception of sex?

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In the last few decades, porn has gone from private collections of VHS and magazines to being totally accessible from every handheld device at any time of day, from anywhere in the world.

Porn being online has meant that a huge number of teenage boys will grow up watching porn. It isn’t just men, one-third of porn viewers are women. But what does this mean for intimacy and sexual relationships in the future?

Porn displays all kinds of ideas about sex that aren’t really the case..

Everyone orgasms, every time

We know this isn’t the case.

Women have screaming orgasms

In the real world, some do, and some don’t.

Women are practically ALWAYS clean shaven everywhere below the eyebrows

Come on ladies, we know that there is a lot of maintenance that goes on, and a lot of the time we simply cannot be bothered to do it. Many boys are growing up and expecting women to be cleanly shaven all the time – and that’s not how hair works, it grows back.

Mid-afternoon romps in the office are apparently common

Yes, this may happen in a few offices out there, but out of porn and films, it’s harassment or public indecency and you don’t want to be done for either of those things.

Lingerie is a necessity

Obviously, everytime you have sex you walk out in a full on suspenders/stockings etc.

The majority of porn is stunning, skinny modelesque women and ripped, well endowed men

Well we know that we don’t all look like that – so what kind of impressions are we giving to teenagers that you need to look like this naked? Obviously magazines, social media and celebrities show unrealistic body expectations all the time, but since porn is showing ideals of perfection, naked and to a younger audience than ever before, porn is creating an unrealistic idea of what people look like during sex, and this is so unhealthy.

In porn, anal is just a normal part of sex that everyone is open to

In fact this is something you need to talk to your partner about, see if they’re comfortable with it, and work out how you’re gonna give it a go (note: plenty of lube).

Threesomes are widely available and everyone enjoys all of it

Threesomes – supposedly every man’s dream. No, those two sisters you know probably don’t want to have sex with you simultaneously and if your boyfriend asks for a threesome, you don’t have to say yes just because every porno he’s ever been into involves more than one girl. You are enough.

Period sex doesn’t exist on camera

Women bleed once a month and still have sex with their partners, seriously? Porn rarely shows period sex, which leads a lot of viewers to think that it doesn’t happen and it further separates teenage boys from discussing female reproductive systems. This is excluding fetish stuff, but let’s not go into that.

There are no awkward elbows in the faces, accidental kneeing your partner in the balls or weird noises that come out of vaginas (according to porn, queefing isn’t a thing).

So does this mean a lot of spectators of porn think sex is this actually like this?

We’re not saying that only men are growing up with a warped idea of sex, as mentioned, one-third of women watch porn too, meaning many young girls are going into sexual relationships with false expectations.

Porn doesn’t show the intimacy of sex, the romance or the awkward things that make you laugh (ie. queefing or struggling to get a condom out of a packet).

It doesn’t show the messy cleanup or people sweating and panting and chugging a load of water when they finish because they’ve been going at it for 45 minutes after a long day of work.

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