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The pros and cons of finding love on the road

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Most people probably don’t go travelling with the intention of falling in love. In fact, I would be less surprised if I were told that people are more likely to avoid catching feelings when they’re on the road.

Firstly, since long-distance relationships don’t tend to be people’s first choice, and secondly, because travelling, particularly long-term, is often a personal journey.

As cliché as it sounds, people travel to “find themselves,” which isn’t easy to do when you find yourself unable to get another person off your mind.

However, sometimes the unexpected happens and you happen to meet your soulmate somewhere far from home, and you can suddenly see all the amazing things about inter-cultural, and sometimes long-distance, love. It’s not always easy, but if it’s meant to be, it’s worth it.

The Pros

Being invited to share in another culture is amazing. This is probably the best thing about finding love on the road. It’s highly likely that your love is from a different country, which means you have the chance to learn about their culture and to share yours with them.

You will have infinite stories to tell, different ideas to discuss and whole new worldviews to explore.

You always have a reason to travel and someone to travel with.

The time you spend together and the quality of your communication, will be stellar. When you have limited time together, you obviously want to make the most of it, which leaves no time for mind games.

You develop trust. Trust is one of the most important foundations in any relationship, and is even more indispensable in a long-distance relationship.

You work towards a common goal, and all the effort pays off. If you’re in it for the long run, there will come a time when you can actually be together long-term.

Making this move will produce a whole new set of challenges, but knowing that the hardest part is over is an incredible feeling. You develop a kind of assurance that you can handle anything life might throw at you, as you’ve already dealt with some of the toughest hurdles relationships can face.

The Cons

Long distance relationships suck, obviously.

If you met whilst travelling, you almost definitely have completely separate lives and just happened to cross paths. You will inevitably have to return to your ‘real’ lives, which could be in different countries, meaning a long-distance relationship is in order. Being apart is hard and you have to be very committed.

Sometimes, cultures conflict. It’s not always easy coming from different cultures. As mentioned, there are a million great things about sharing your backgrounds and beliefs with each other, but sometimes, cultural differences are hard to manage.

There will be uncertainty. It will probably be extremely difficult to decide upon a future together. If you intend to be with your partner for the long haul, one or both of you will have to move away, maybe even to a different country.

You might have to deal with prejudice. As much as we all wish it wasn’t so, many, many people still have preconceptions about people based on their nationality or skin colour.

If you and your partner present yourselves as a united front, you might be able to educate less tolerant friends and family members – if not, they’re not worth your time.

There may be a language barrier. If you have different native languages but have nevertheless met and fallen in love, presumably one or both of you is bilingual. However, even if this is the case, misunderstandings and miscommunications can occur.

Falling in love on the road is something you might think will never happen to you (like me!) but you never know what, or who, is just around the corner. The experience is far from easy, but I reiterate, all the effort pays off, and the right person is always worth it.



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